Wowza, I've been slacking hardcore, not only on this blog, but on wedding planning in general! Although I find it hard to blog about things when I'm not doing anything...
There have also been a few curveballs in my life recently. My wonderful, amazing, fabulous mother who has always been my rock was diagnosed with breast cancer. It threw me for a huge loop. My mom? My mom who hardly ever gets sick, who is the most successful woman I know, who is caring and loving and such a good person? It took me quite awhile to come to terms with it, to realize it wasn't a death sentence, to see that she's still the same person, just a little more tired or whatever after her chemo. I've only known for a couple weeks, though, and I guess she's only known for about that long as well, so we're all still adjusting to the new normal.
But the good news is that she is fighting hard, and she's 1/4 through the worst of her chemo treatments! She is doing pretty well, it seems, and every time I talk to her I feel better (a little ironic, right? Who is supposed to be the support system here?). The cancer hadn't spread, which is the best news. And on top of that, she was able to come with me to look at wedding dresses for the first time!!!!
It was a little last minute, the wedding dress shopping trip. My MOH and HLP and BFF and all those acronyms was luckily available, so I made the appointment on Friday for Saturday morning. That night I called my mom and asked if she would be up for it, and I was so glad she was able to make it. Having those two was just perfect. They know my style well enough, and are able to nicely say what works and what doesn't, even if it is different from what I think. We didn't find anything amazing, but it was such a good learning experience! I learned that I love sweetheart necklines, and waistlines that hit just above the hip. I also looooove sleeves, even if my FI wasn't crazy of the photos I showed him (of the rejects! He won't get to see the dress when I do find it!). My mom didn't really like the tulle skirts, although I think they grew on her a little. She also didn't like the colored sashes that I loved, but I think we can come to an agreement there. My MOH was great too! Pointed out practical things like bustles and such. I have a good team on my side.
So, anyway, that is where it stands right now. My mom told me the one other thing she definitely wants to be involved with is the caterer selection! I don't blame her! So that will be one of the next decisions we make. Although I don't know if I should wait until after the worst of her chemo, so she'll be more likely to be hungry and able to enjoy the food!
I never thought I'd be faced with illness so close to home like this, but my mother is seriously so strong and amazing. She is fighting through, and staying happy and positive so far. I am incredibly impressed with her attitude and outlook, and so glad she has the great doctors she has, and my dad to help take care of her while she's not at her best. I'm lucky to have my mother, and this is making me even more grateful to have such a wonderful woman in my life. I can't express my love for her enough!!!
