Going Nowhere Really Fast...

Not us, just our planning.  It's so far in the future still!  It's exciting because there is a WEDDING to plan and think about and gush about, but I honestly am feeling kind of stuck again.  It almost makes me want to move the wedding up so I can get started on stuff, but I don't want to stress myself out yet either.  So I'm taking a rather chill approach right now.

That said, I keep having freak out moments, where I will see something on Pinterest, say a guestbook, and think to myself "OH MY GOD!  I don't have a guest book picked out yet!"  This leads to some frantic searching on Pinterest, Etsy, and anywhere else I can think, until about 5 or 10 minutes later I realize I still have like, a year before I even have to worry much.  That and we haven't nailed down the feel or theme or colors or anything.  So it is pointless.  But it feels like there is so much I should be doing!  I think my frantic searching may also be wearing me out and making me burn out on weddings a little (already?), which is terrible!  It doesn't help that I have been reading wedding blogs for over a year now...

I guess my next step would logically be to discuss with Dino how we want this whole shebang to feel.  I think he might have a different idea than me, especially when it comes to formality (and what is and isn't formal).  He seems to have jumped on the black tie bandwagon, where colors are subdued and everything is formal.  I'm more on the side of bright colors and fun, but still formal (because how often are we and all our friends all dressed up?  That makes it formal automatically, right?).  So there is something we need to hash out.  And then we really should make a list of venues we would like to see in person, tour them, and decide on that (although since we're looking at houses to buy one soon, I am not enthused to be looking at any more buildings right now!).

Am I the only one who feels like planning starts out so slowly?  How do you just jump right in, go from being a girlfriend one day, to suddenly having basically a new job in planning a wedding?

Getting Down to Business

And by business, I mean list making.

I feel like the best way for me to get started is to make lists.  Things I must have, of course, but things I don't want is also quite important to keep in mind.  This is that list.

1. Vintage/Rustic Feel
Is it just me, or are 98% of the weddings these days described as either "Vintage" or "Rustic"?  I must admit, most of the time these weddings are so pretty, the soft colors, flowers all over, a random piece of furniture antiqued and placed outside, and of course, mason jars.  They just 100% are not me.

This is an example of a "Vintage" wedding.  And not me.  (Image from http://www.betsywhite.com)

If you had asked me 5 years ago, I probably would have gone gaga over this type of wedding.  But now, I think I'd rather have bright colors, less fussy looks, and more FUN.

2. Soft, Muted Photography

This goes hand in hand with the Vintage thing.  I'm not sure if the recent popularity of Instagram or the whole Vintage/Rustic aesthetic is why I've decided it's not my thing, but it definitely isn't.  Again, it can be very pretty, and achieves a look that is reminiscent of old times.  

Yum, old cupcakes...  (Image from http://sweetapolita.com)

However, I want our day to be recorded as crisp and clearly as possible.  I want the bright bright colors I choose to show through!  I want everyone's faces to be in focus!  I want to remember it as I live it!  I guess that means we'll be looking for more of a journalistic photographer?  

3. Cupcakes.

This is something that will surprise basically all of my friends and family.  I am known as a cupcake fiend!  They are cute, they are delicious, but they don't really fit in with my wedding vision.

Mmm, rustic cupcakes...  (Image from http://wedding-cupcakes.org)

Any other day, I would be down for a cupcake!  But the look of a beautiful, tall cake...  well, cupcakes just can't compare.  (Another potentially unpopular opinion of mine -  I LOVE FONDANT!!!  It's pretty, and the fondant I've had actually tastes good.)

This is just the start of my NO list.  I'm feeling like I am kinda picky, but I want a unique-to-us day, not a blog/picture-perfect day.  Something that will be fun, but still a little fancy.