When we first started wedding planning, I was ready to throw all the traditions out the window! No, I don't want to be walked down the aisle by my father. No I don't want to do a father/daughter mother/son dance. No I don't want to throw a bouquet or garter. Etc. etc. But now I'm starting to change my mind.
My dad and me, waaaay back in the day. Personal Photo
I've never really been a daddy's girl, always kind of kept my distance somehow. My mom and I are fairly close, but still probably not best friends or anything. But I love my parents, and want to make these memories with them. I want to look back on the pictures and see their smiles and see their hugs and everything. I don't really believe my dad will be giving me away at the ceremony, but I think it is important to honor both him and my mom in the work they did to raise me.
At a friend's bachelorette party, we all wore sparkly rings! Personal Photo
As far as the bouquet and garter tosses, I'm still not 100% decided. They won't really show who will be getting married next, of course, but they can be fun! I've always enjoyed trying to catch the bouquet, even though it can be a little awkward (as in, don't try too hard, or else you might freak out your boyfriend!). And the garter shenanigans can be a little uncomfortable, since I'm not really keen on my family seeing my new husband groping around up my skirt. But it can be fun to have a little competition, a little break in the dancing. Another thing to do at the wedding, rather than just eat and dance. I don't want people to get bored, and these traditions would provide a little entertainment.
Such a cute cake! I've had this pinned for ages... Image via TheFauxMartha.com
The cake cutting is one tradition I have always known we would have to keep. I believe it is supposed to show you working together, but the most important part of this tradition to me is that you get to eat cake! I love cake too much to skip this! It also provides a little entertainment for the crowd, a little "will he smash it in her face? Will she smash it in his?" uncertainty. Plus we're going to be spending a chunk of money on this cake, so I want everyone to look at it and let it have it's moment in the spotlight before it is devoured!
I feel like I have barely scratched the surface regarding all the traditions involved in weddings, but these are pretty big ones. I am slowly changing my mind about some traditions, including more than I expected. But as much as I want to be different and a unique snowflake, weddings are a good time to show people you love them, and make special memories. I think that is the most important.
Did you surprise yourself by wanting to keep, or even get rid of, certain traditions?
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